Date Hayden Possibly the worst profile you will ever read 😉

Ahhh, Hayden caught your eye has he?

Well, if you were looking to learn a little more... you have come to the right place.

Hello there stranger,

Thank you for taking the time to piece togeather that suspicious looking puzzle (that you hopefully found on a dating app). Now you get to read a little more about me.

Now before we delve too greedily and too deep, let me first start off by saying this is is going to be an interesting experiment and a terrible dating profile essay.

Watch me about to break all the rules. Maw ha ha ha ha…

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But I can assure you, it is terrible by design.

It is a feature… not a bug…

If you cannot tell:

Thus I decided to build this website and share it on my profile to completely and utterly disqualify myself from the modern dating paradigm. Which in so far, has only hurt me. (But don’t worry I have taken a deep look into myself and consistently working on me). I am ready to be in a relationship -> Now I just need to find someone who is willing to see me as a partner.

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As a very wise woman once said:

Grief is the price we pay for love. -Queen Elizabeth II

If this was poker… I am about to share most of my cards on round 1… poker

I am very interested to see how this little experimental website goes and if it pays off.

Could be catastrophic… Let us find out togeather.

Now some ground rules

  1. There will be no contacting through said website.

You most likely found me on a dating app, and that is where we should talk, for both our safety sake.

  1. Don’t like what you see read… Fantastic, I wish you well on your quest. No need to let me know.

  2. As this is a public facing website, anyone could say that they are me, and simply point to this page. To verify you are talking to the real me. Ask me to put a chosen word of your chosing into the website temporarily. And only if you refresh the page (never let anyone control your PC)

So if I have yet to scare you off, let me tell you a little about myself.

I have been called many things by friends, family and other people - some I should not utter here.

But chief among them are:

But how would I describe myself?

Probably as an idealistic romantic with a dash of optimism and a side of pragmatism, with a perchance of taking the hard road and thinking long term.

I am someone who likes to learn new ideas and build things that last.

Ah… That probably does little to describe me as it is fairly vague… but it would make for a good blurb on the back of a book, eh?

So perhaps I should regale thee with some cold hard facts?

Unless of course you want to dip out now?

Okay then, let us start nice and easy:

  1. I love stories. Tales that inspire and bring forth new ideas. I am enamoured by the high art of storytelling. I love the smell of books, even old ones. I am currently reading The Lost World, by Michael Crichton.

I especially love fantasy with a dash of a beautiful romantic subplot. Though I have yet to find a story that truly resonates with me. It is perhaps why I am working towards my goal of becoming a full time storyteller one day. But not just books, oh no. Games, novels, and comics. I love making them all.

  1. Right now I am a casual Lecturer at a University. This gives me time to work on my own freelancing business and another business I am in the process of setting up.

  2. I love video games, and board games. Getting lost in worlds and exploring fictitious lore. I must admit I don’t have as much time as I used to, but I still try and find time to enjoy my hobbies.

    My favourite games at the moment are:

    • Talisman (Board game)
    • Elden Ring
    • Bloodborne (Never finished, but I love the atmosphere)
    • Stellaris
    • Mass Effect
    • Baldur’s Gate 3
    • many Multiplayer horror games (I couldn’t play horror games without my friends)

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    My Favourite films include:

    • The Lord of the Rings
    • Hunt for Red October
    • Atlantis the Lost Empire
    • Ben Hur (1956)
    • 20000 Leagues Under the Sea
    • Moby Dick
    • In the Heart of the Sea
    • Avatar (Second one does not exist for me, I found it… well, I didn’t like it at all)
    • Alien
    • Aliens
    • Interstellar
    • Star Gate
    • Wall-e
    • Godzilla (1998)… I know… I know…
    • King Kong (2005)
    • Greenbook
    • The Kings Speech

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  3. My favourite story is the Lord of the Rings. It is such a beautiful tale, and I have very fond memories of coming to know the world when I was growing up.

    I am of the firm belief that stories are humanity’s greatest strength… and our greatest weakness. The ability to transfer ideas across the world is both amazing and frightful.

  4. Now for food -> I love cooking (cleaning… meh… where are my AI robot cleaners!) I love cooking fresh food from scratch. From pizza to risotto to wonton noodle soups. I love the community and socialisation that food creates. Sitting around the kitchen, talking about the food, what went well… what didn’t. What we could do next time. My favourite dishes are:

    • Rissoto
    • Pulled Noddle Soup
    • Pizza
    • Burgers
    • Octopus
    • Seafood (But particually fond of sushi and shashmi)
    • Any cut of meat. Rare… but Picanha with farofa… mmmmhmmm

    I try and avoid fast food, but even I cannot resist KFC now and again… that zinger burger. Whoa.

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Right… Now… deep breath…

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How am I doing so far?

What is the person doing?

You may be thinking any number of these questions. And to be honest… so am I.

But I am laughing as I write these words.

On to the more… heavy topics, that I do believe are quite IMPORTANT.

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I hope that it comes across that I am very open with my feelings, wants, likes and dislikes. Communication is so very important to me and I want to be upfront about who I am.

Now if you did not come from a dating app (and you are unsure as to my preferences), I am a straight guy, so I don’t swing that way, sorry.

As you read these… think about you, think about if these traits and wants appeal to you? I am not suggesting all of them will. And that is okay. No one is perfect, lest of all me. I am far far from it.

This is it!

The make or break part of this experience. Let us see how I do?

  1. Love Language

    My love language is mostly quality time and physical touch - but please don’t confuse this with loose and casual. I am anything but and believe any deep physical relationship should only exist in a relationship where both people see the relationship potentially lasting for life.

    Physical intimacy is important to me in a committed relationship. And I do NOT believe it is something to be jumped into lightly, I would rather not have any discussions about such things early on thus I am writing it here, so as to dispell any doubt about it.

  2. Attachment style

    I would like to say it is secure. Though, on that note, I am someone who really would like to feel close to a partner, someone who wants and is looking for a fellow best friend to go on this journey called life together, but I am quite upfront about that. I feel that communication is so very important to sustain and nurture once built up.

    Trust is based on three things: Predictability, dependability and faith.

    And I view trust and communication the hall marks of how to build a strong relationship, and physical intimacy the glue that holds it togeather. (A bit clinical of me eh…)

  3. Dating Style

    When it comes to dating, I will only date exclusively.

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    I want to give 100% effort in finding out if we are compatible, and the idea of “shopping around” leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t want a situationship…

    If this doesn’t interest you, I completely understand. Thank you for reading up to here and I genuinely wish you good luck upon your quest.

  4. Politics

    I can be “old fashioned” about some things, and “progressive” about others. I am not Left or Right politically - but choose elements of both that align with the information and data that I have available.

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    A joke if it is a bit on the nose for thee…

    But yes. I am a centrist. I think a policies “goodness” depends on the situation at the time.

    I am not all knowing, nor do I think that my views are the correct ones for everyone… I just try and make a choice that I feel would help the most people or make the world a better place. Even if they may be unpopular.

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  5. Substance Use

    I don’t drink or smoke, nor have done nor never will do any drugs.

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    I don’t mind alcohol in food ->

    How else could I eat rissoto and most sauces haha…

    And I can respect others enjoying it with a fine meal. Like a nice red wine with a wonderful steak.

    I just choose not to for myself. So if you respect that about me that will be fine.

    In regards to smoking (vapes included) and drugs (except caffine haha)… I do not judge you, I have friends who enjoy these… I disagree with them. And that is okay. But in terms of romance, we will not be compatible.

  6. Religion

    In terms of Religion, I was brought up catholic (schooling, baptism, confirmation… etc…)

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    But I lean more towards agnosticism or Spinoza’s god over any one religion.

    I love the stars and our place among them. Looking up into the aether and into the heart of a thousand furnaces.

    The universe… This planet is such a wondrous place.

    If you are after a religious and devout partner I am probably not the one for you. I respect faith and belief to a point (so long as it does not hurt others, including the believer), but I also tend to question and disagree when it replaces critical thinking.

  7. Family Plans

    I do want children.

    2 or more to be exact.

    It is one of my greatest dreams. To one day sit them down and begin reading a book that starts with the words: “In a hole in the ground there lived a hobbit.”

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  8. Life Goals

    I guarantee you they are a little out there.

    But the theme of them is that I am not at all interested in the paradigm and culture of living to work. (Don’t get me wrong I enjoy work -> I currently lecture at a University for 3D and Game Design).

    I am not sold on the idea of the current status quo.

    I grant you I am very fortunante to be able to explore such options. I fully own that. My hope is that you too are interested or at least open to this idea.

    I would rather live a peaceful life filled with nature and life, and measured by the quality of one’s connections, than live in the city full of hustle, bustle and false faced linkedin profiles

  9. Work

    In terms of work -> As already stated, I am working as a casual Lecturer for a University, teaching 3D, Game design and Business related subjects. I am pretty good at what I do. My two great passions are Story and Education. And I wish to bridge these two, which is why I am working on my own business on the side trying to get that up and running to be able to work online (and thus from anywhere in the world)

  10. How I frame my life

    I really like to build things that last, therefore I ended up teaching myself programming. I write mostly in C# (for game dev) and Golang and Javascript (for web dev) with a bit of Elixir. If you have no idea what I am saying… don’t worry. I don’t either half the time.

    The point of telling you such nonsensical words, is that I enjoy building things and understanding how they work, be it online or in real life.

  11. Views on Long Distance

    When it comes to relationships, I want it to be in the former. While I am open to a long distance relationship, communication will be incredibly important even more so in that situation -> and would require a lot of work, which I would be more than willing to do for the right person so long as it was reciprocal. In a nutshell,

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    I am open to it. But I would like to make plans if we see ourselves moving forward as soon as possible. (As soon as we were both sure that we would like to know each other more and pursue a relationship togeather.) As in person, face to face meetings and dates are much more important and powerful.

Now I did mention some of my life dreams didn’t I?

My two top spot current plans include

Moving overseas

Australia will always be home. And I do love it. However, I might have a romantised vision of meandering my way up towards Europe (I have lived in Europe before (Germany) And I loved it), before moving on to the European countryside, to either Spain or Italy. Renting initially, but I love the idea of finding a old home in need of renovations in a small quite town and making that into a wonderful home.

The reason of why Europe:

  1. Living in the country or small town’s in Europe is more managmable compared with Australia, you can get to most major cities in a day trip
  2. Cost of living / Quality of living
  3. I am European (helps with visa maw ha ha ha…)

Does this mean I don’t want to live in Australia?

Of course not, I love Australia, and most of my friends are here… as is most of my life. But I would like to try something new and have options to live across the globe.

Buy a sailboat and “sail” around the Australian Coast and beyond.

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Okay okay… yes… yes… It most certainly wouldn’t look like that… I am quite drawn to catamarans myself… however the market does seem a little steep (especially for maintainence)

I have always loved the ocean (not being in it mind you… but on it, the smell… the sounds… the taste of salt on the breeze, the rocking of the waves… the terrible fury) -> There is something magical about the ocean. Granted… sand… meh.. Could do without it. (It gets everywhere).

This plan is an out there one… and is a long term dream.

My plan is actually pretty expiremental. I would like to buy a fixer-upper (gutted) fiberglass catamaran. Then convert her into a solar power cat with a desiel generator backup (and if the tech is there, wings for a tri - redundent system ).

My thoughts are two fold.

  1. Fiberglass is cheaper and easier to repair (for me personally). So long as she has good bones. So if things do break or are in need of repair. I can do so myself.
  2. Electric systems are much more simple than sail or motors… (shocking… but true, there are simply less moving parts and less things to go wrong, less materials to store (only a small amount of desiel + oil (for the electric motors)), thus less year over year expenses)

The initial investment I am estimating to be around 200k AUD (This would include a refit) but in the long run, she would cost less (in theory) than a traditional sail or power cat. One thing I do not want to do on this project is go into debt. The only thing that would be of real interest is her theoretical range and ability for blue water crossings… (thus the lap first)

A 200k home, that I can take where ever I dream. Maybe it is a fools hope? But if you do not try. I could talk all day about this! So if you love boats, or have had the thoughts like this too, What are you waiting for? I would love to talk with you!!

This is a very very experimental design. I would like to try her out on the “Lap”, around Australia’s coast, before trying the more ambitious journey of crossing the pacific. (Or at least part of it, visit New Zealand and all the tiny islands)…

Eventually purchasing or renting a home on the water, with a jetty in a small town, in Europe or Australia.

I know… I know… out there… I did say so, didn’t I?

Are these plans set? As in do you need to want these things too?

No… most certainly not.

Right now these are my plans. As in singular me.

If they sound great to you, even better!

But I want to also make it clear that these are plans… Plans that I am actively working towards. But that does not mean that these things are going to happen. I would like for them to happen. But I am open to new and wonderful experiences too.

If there is one thing that life has taught me is that plans can change, either through ones own choice… or sometimes by force despite our wishes. And I am open to that. But I hope what you take away from this is that I am after a life filled with nature, life and making my home with me.

I have a destination in mind, but I am happy to chart a new course with a co-captain at my side.

So then… How did I do?

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I know I might come across as intense, possibly even crazy, and it is mostly true. I am intensely passionate about finding someone to go on this crazy journey called life with.

I have learned a lot in my time, and I know myself. And I know what I want and I am not going to cloak my intentions or my values to impress others or to have a chance with someone.

I am going to act as my authentic self, and I hope that this… website, demonstrates that.

I am not perfect.

Far from it.

I have vices, and I make mistakes. But I think, overall, I am a good person.

Thank you for reading -Hayden